He's Just Not That Into You

The movie Brad and I went to see a couple nights ago, He's Just Not That Into You, is based on the best-selling book by Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo, which in turn is based on the hit series Sex and the City. It begs to answer the question:
Are you the exception or are you the rule to dating?

I'm wondering who this applies to because all rules considered, Brad and I were sending off mixed signals right from the start.

Rule #1: If he's not calling you, he's just not that into you.
"Oh sure, they say they're busy. They say that they didn't have even a moment in their insanely busy day to pick up the phone. It was just that crazy. All lies. With the advent of cell phones and speed dialing, it is almost impossible not to call you. Sometimes I call people from my pants pocket when I don't even mean to. If I were into you, you would be the bright spot in my horribly busy day. Which would be a day that I would never be too busy to call you."

Okay, it took Brad over a week to call me because he was afraid I wasn't into him, which was completely untrue. According to the movie, a phone call past seven days makes me the exception to the rule, just like Ginnifer Goodwin (Gigi).

Rule #2: If she's not sleeping with you...
According to Kevin Connolly and Scarlett Johansson, aka Connor and Anna's relationship in the film, if she isn't sleeping with you within the first two months, get out now. She's just not into you.

I waited two months before sleeping with Brad. I wanted it to be perfect because in my past, some things were not-so-perfect. We slept together the night before he left for Europe with his brother. They were gone for six weeks, and the moment he came home, I surprised him at his new place. We slept together three more times within twelve hours, before I had to get back home the next morning. Trust me, I was never dis-interested.

Rule #3: If he's not marrying you...
If he's not marrying you, he never will, but why do men just assume women want to get married and have kids before they're thirty?

I loved Ben Affleck, aka Neil's take on marriage at the beginning of the film. His best friend gets married then cheats on his wife for another women who is sexier and more fun. Whereas, Neil only wants Jennifer Anniston (Beth). They have been dating for seven years, still love each other, and are virtually issue-free, so why get married? According to Neil, marriage is for couples who need to share with the world that they are together because they are so insecure of their relationship or have conformed to what society says is normal.

I'm just happy with what I have in the present, always.

Spoiler alert! Both characters compromised; Neil gave up his ugly pants, Beth gave up on marriage. However, wanting to make her happy in the very end, Neil ends up proposing so that he could have "even a chance at having a shot at being happy." So, Beth was the exception.

So really, every character in the movie ended up being the exception. It is yet another movie to confirm single women's dillusions and fantasies everywhere. There were no absolutes or harsh truths that I could find.

I think the rules are just meant to be thrown out and done our own way.